Recent events have given me the rare opportunity to reflect on the cornucopia of my romantic experiences. They have varied in both intensity, as well as the degree to which these relationships could be called romantic in the common sense, as well as the traditional sense of the word. Does anybody remember the 90s ballad out of Australia entitled “More Than Words”? If you don’t, you can find a YouTube link here
However cheesy this song might be by today’s standards, it still makes me think. What if we lived in a world where we couldn’t say I love you to one another? What if we could use those words, to soften the blow of reckless actions and sharp tongues? What would we do? It’s been my experience, that every time a woman has ever told me that she loved me, the situation usually ends with her also saying the words “I’m sorry.” The conclusion I’ve come to, is that when we allow ourselves to trust someone so completely that we think that saying I love you may be a good idea, that’s when they can hurt us the most. Those two phrases are in many ways, two of the most overused phrases in the English language, and yet I still choose to employ them. So I’m not going to sit here and call people hypocrites, and if I do, let me assure you that I am one also.
What I’m suggesting, is that we attempt to live in a way that is conducive of freeing ourselves from these two expressions entirely. If we are sorry for something we’ve done, or said.. Then we should make a penance for what we have done, rather than saying that we’re sorry. If we want someone to know that they mean a lot to us, then we should do something nice for them… And not just because we want them to have sex with us, or we expect something in return from let’s say, a family member down the road. Genuine authenticity in one’s actions often conveys more than words ever could. But that is not to say that words are not powerful, but I digress, as I will address that in a later post.
All I’m saying is, that old adage of “love means never having to say you’re sorry”is dead wrong. And if we never say these things, there have to be other ways for people to know how we feel. And that, at least to me, is far more genuine.